This week we talked about Active Parenting. I missed Tuesday where they talked about discipline. Active Parenting is a technique that is talked about by Michael Popkin. There was something that my teacher said that I really liked. He said, "parents focus on child's needs more than behavior because behaviors noticed are repeated. We discussed 5 needs children need.
1. Seeking Contact/Belonging
2. Seeking Power
3. Seeking Protection
4. Getting away from it All
5. Need for challenge
I will tell you some of my notes under each need so that it makes some sense what we talked about.
Contact/Belonging children will do things to get negative attention. They will annoy people. What parents can do to help not to have negative attention is hug, touch, and smile. Parents can also create opportunities for the child to contribute by having chores errands and have the participate in a team or club.
For seeking power children will rebel and want to control people. Parents need to encourage responsibility and they need to offer choices with consequences. A good example of this that my teacher used was eating soup. IF you asked a child would you like chicken noodle or tomato soup? If the child chose tomato and starts throwing a fit about chicken noodle, a parent can say "Oh dang and you chose tomato, well we will have snack in an hour. Help me clean up this mess." This gave a child a choice but taught consequences as well. Seeking protection-a child will seek revenge. Parents can teach assertiveness. When parents are tickling and they say to stop then stop. Getting away from it all-children want to get into trouble, have fun distractions, escape/avoid situations. Parents need to model appropriate ways of taking a break. Need for challenge they will do thrill seeking. Parents need to encourage skill building with classes, clubs, etc.
There are a few books that I want to read that my teacher told us about. They are called Parenting with Love and Christlike Parenting. They are from Glenn Latham
1. Seeking Contact/Belonging
2. Seeking Power
3. Seeking Protection
4. Getting away from it All
5. Need for challenge
I will tell you some of my notes under each need so that it makes some sense what we talked about.
Contact/Belonging children will do things to get negative attention. They will annoy people. What parents can do to help not to have negative attention is hug, touch, and smile. Parents can also create opportunities for the child to contribute by having chores errands and have the participate in a team or club.
For seeking power children will rebel and want to control people. Parents need to encourage responsibility and they need to offer choices with consequences. A good example of this that my teacher used was eating soup. IF you asked a child would you like chicken noodle or tomato soup? If the child chose tomato and starts throwing a fit about chicken noodle, a parent can say "Oh dang and you chose tomato, well we will have snack in an hour. Help me clean up this mess." This gave a child a choice but taught consequences as well. Seeking protection-a child will seek revenge. Parents can teach assertiveness. When parents are tickling and they say to stop then stop. Getting away from it all-children want to get into trouble, have fun distractions, escape/avoid situations. Parents need to model appropriate ways of taking a break. Need for challenge they will do thrill seeking. Parents need to encourage skill building with classes, clubs, etc.
There are a few books that I want to read that my teacher told us about. They are called Parenting with Love and Christlike Parenting. They are from Glenn Latham